A sad reality of life. How could it be, in-spite of the best intentions to start with?
A divorce can be total mind-bender! And a challenge to how you saw life.
At the same time, it is fundamental to look out for the best way to fulfill your responsibility to your children.
Compromise for the children, and negotiate through the judicial system, if you must, but do it for their sake.
There is more than way to approach an issue, the rest relies on communication, reasonability and compromise. When there are kids involved, you still will need those aspect in the relationship.
For fathers, no need to go at it MGTOW …
Up the game on responsible parenting & keep a cool head.