Thoughts on Death & Grieving:
Death ends a life, not a relationship, and you may not as some say or think “get over it”. You may come to change within your locus of control which is you and how you live your future, and subsequently grow from the experience. In that sense, it is a personal and intimate journey and one you don’t have to go through alone.
Whether you feel that by death comes the absolute end, bar nothing else or believe that you are still in psycho-emotional touch with the physically departed one(s), you may still experience an emotional rollercoaster as you go through the grieving process.
It is okay if others are not able to respond in the way that you would like or need them to, maybe this is too much or too awkward for them. It is a special and unique, psycho-emotional space to be in, that many haven’t experienced and ultimately will not traverse in the same manner, as all grieve differently.
Honor the spirit(s) in a way to continue the relationship in a productive fashion, that is a positive and healthy step. When you are ready you will know, by keeping a sense of clarity about you regarding life, circumstances and your connection.
Burying someone or disposing of the body in any way doesn’t get rid of the common memories, rather it is a practical means of dealing the physical representation. It is not an instance where you can ask for closure, you are not breaking a relationship. But there is now a new chapter in your life, and the heroes are still there, in existence, at least through your connection.
By Salif Coulibaly
BCC – Life Coach
M.S. – Counseling